Screwing up

I screw up, all the time. Mostly little stuff, but sometimes not. Most of the time I’m letting myself down – not working out when I’d planned, snacking at work, staying up later than I should because I’m surfing the internet (do people even call it that anymore?). Nothing, though, equals the gut-churning feeling of […]

Decisions and Will Power

The following are concepts from psychology that are important for you to understand. They form a key foundation for understanding why people do the things they do, particularly in extremis. All of these phenomena relate specifically to decision-making, will power, and reacting under intense pressure – most are also common experiences, which is why it’s […]

On being in-between, and ambiguity

Transitions are always the hardest times. Even when all of the decisions have been made and you’re just waiting for things to play out, it’s emotionally uncomfortable to be betwixt and between. Frequently, though, the situation is more ambiguous – everything’s up in the air, the key decisions haven’t been made, and there isn’t even […]

Goal Focus

Every once in a while, I have a conversation with my four year old that goes something like this: Me: Do you want to go to the playground? Him: YES! Me: No you don’t. Him: I don’t? Me: No, right now you want to lie on the floor, kicking at everything around you. Him (genuinely […]